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Can Men Without Fathers Become Great Spouses?

I know that some men who are raised without the influence of their fathers can learn from that abandonment and become extraordinary fathers. I was wondering on this Father's Day, can men raised without a positive father in their life become nurturing and supportive husbands?

I was watching Waiting To Exhale last night and the character Gloria did not want to let her son Tarik go study abroad because she then would be alone. For some reason this storyline struck a nerve with me. I wondered, what type of man will Tarik grow up to be? Will he become a womanizer never settling because his mom is the love of his life.

 
  

I have met men who love their kids to death but have a somewhat strained antagonistic relationship with their wife, girlfriend, and/or baby's momma. I started thinking, what makes these men reluctant to forsake all others for the woman in their life?

Why is it that Sean "P. Diddy" Combs can feel no shame about being in a nationally televised interview talking about his six kids with multiple mothers. He just said he is a good dad but never mentioned being a good mate. Why is this the publicized example?

Is it because they have never seen a man tough it out and make his family work? Is it a lack of self-discipline and commitment?

No, seriously, what is it? I am still wondering.

Who Really Cares Who Reggie Bush is Dating?

Apparently, there is some outrage among black women that Reggie Bush, who is famously dating Kim Kardashian, is on the Essence cover entitled Black Men, Love and Relationship Issue. The comments are off the chain!

The problem?

These sisters are screaming bloody murder because Reggie Bush is not (at least not currently) dating a black woman.

Who really cares who Reggie Bush is dating?

• The only things I know about Reggie Bush is that he is a football player AND he is dating Kim Kardashian. PERIOD!
• I am not a football fan so I did not know who Reggie Bush was until he started dating Kim Kardashian.
• If he was not dating Kim Kardashian but was Tiger Wood'ing (pun intended) a bunch of black women would that be okay?
• Seriously, he's not even that hot.
• There was an earthqauke in Haiti that affects millions, are we really THAT concerned over a football player and his girlfriend.
• It's 2010!! Get over it!

Am I trippin' for thinkinh this is much ado about nothing?

Black Women Being Unmarried is Now National News

Thank you, ABC News! **insert sarcasm**

 

 

Steve Harvey says date older men. Ha, I wonder why?

I would consider older, like 40, ONLY if he did NOT sport the 'stache. Stevie, baby, only Magnum P.I. can get away with the 'stache!

Merry Christmas!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

On the first day of Christmas, my true love gave to me. . . .

Denzel Washington

Brian J. White

Laz Alonso

Don't ever say, I have never given you anything!

Merry Christmas!

Brian J White's New Show - Men of A Certain Age

I have been seriously struggling with finding interesting writing topics for TZA - then it came to me/like an epiphany.

Brian J White sent me a shout out on TWITTER. Why am I, like,  so excited? LOL.

This past weekend I worked as a production assistant for a music video and now this. Can my life get any better? LOL.

Anywho.

Mr. White is starring in a new TV series, Men of A Certain Age, which premieres next Monday, December 7th on TNT at 9 (Central). The show also stars Ray Ramono and Andre Braugher.

I. WILL. BE. WATCHING.

Loved Brian in Mr. 3000 - his character was kinda mean. He played a bad guy in Tyler Perry's I Can Do Bad All By Myself. I am really curious to see his character's persona in Men of A Certain Age.

You know guys, Brian White reminds me of a guy I used to date in college. He was really cute but really down to earth and nice. It is a bit ironic that this guy competed in martial arts tournaments and Brian White starred in Fighting. EERY!!!!!

 BUT- (you know there had to be a BUT in there somewhere!) - I was in love with an idiot.

POURQUOI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!??????????????????????????

That, of course is, another post for another day.

P.S. If you are NOT following me on Twitter, you are MISSING A LOT!!!!

http://twitter.com/Talulazoeapple

So, will you watch?

I Guess We Have To Defend Watching Tyler Perry Movies Now

There is no monolithic black experience. PERIOD.

So no one individual, experience, or point of view represents all of us. Agreed?

With that said, why does all the Tyler Perry hatred center on - he is perpetuating negative stereotypes, he is a "coon", other talented black producers can't catch a break, he is BAD FOR BLACK PEOPLE. Really?

Where does this come from? I just read Siditty's blog.I love this blogger and she makes some valid points but girl lighten up. Everything is not a race movement. LOL

Tyler Perry writes from one perspective of the black experience. His movies have not been artistic masterpieces but darn it they are not funny. I know at least I will laugh, cry and probably be annoyed all in the same film.

Read my review of his latest.

One more point, other black director's should learn from TP and TD Jakes. They built up a LOYAL fan base through plays (TP) and books, church(TD) and then launched movies.

All of you high-browed people who claim other directors don't get a brake, did you actually pay to see their films? Are they breaking the marketing mold or simply rehashing the same broken formula? What other director would make Kimberly Elise (a very brown-skinned girl) the love interest in a romantic comedy?

Fans can make or break directors not lofty philosophical arguments and brow beating.

This Is Why I Love The Obamas

These two really seem to be in love. I need to see couples like this. It gives me hope that real sistas with intelligence can find love with an intelligent, hardworking brotha.

PS. I got these lovely pictures over at the political blog The Black Snob

My Reflections On Barack Obama Speech at DNC

I will not attempt to recount future President Obama's speech, like I have done all the other DNC speakers. I could not do it justice.

Magnanimous. Presidential. Prophetic. American.

I was watching Barack, thinking of my brothers, my nephews, our men. I was in tears with pride and hope. I know he will inspire young people to excel, work hard, and pursue their dreams. That is the genius of this moment - inspiration.

God is good.

Now I will end all of the serious talk and return to the fun loving Talulazoeapple that you love.

As I close, I leave you with this question, Does Wolf Blitzer share the same hair stylist as Donna Brazille?

STIFF. CURLS. RULE.

Your Stories - Positive Black Men (Repost)

On 7/23/08, I posted an entry on the difficulty I had finding positive stories of black men via the Internet or other media. This entry was submitted by Kimberly Simmons:

My story is a simple one.  Everynight, with some exceptions, I can count on my husband (Randy Simmons) to be home and to take part in the bedtime rituals with our son (Rand Jr.).  In the morning, his name is the first out of my son's mouth.  Randy Jr. constantly looks for ways to emulate my husband (mimics his workout routines, his stance, and so many other things.  Most notably, my husband isn't afraid to bestow hugs and kisses or to tell him that he is loved.  In my opinion, you can't get more positive or more real than the everyday.

I could not have said it better myself.

Come on folks send me your tales of a dark knight (pun intended) in shining armor. You just may be featured on Talulazoeapple. Hey don't knock it. LOL

P.S. You can submit your stories via Talulazoeapple@yahoo.com

**UPDATE** Send more stories, would love to highlight ya'!

On 7/23/08, I posted an entry on the difficulty I had finding positive stories of black men via the Internet or other media. This entry was submitted by Kimberly Simmons:

My story is a simple one.  Everynight, with some exceptions, I can count on my husband (Randy Simmons) to be home and to take part in the bedtime rituals with our son (Rand Jr.).  In the morning, his name is the first out of my son's mouth.  Randy Jr. constantly looks for ways to emulate my husband (mimics his workout routines, his stance, and so many other things.  Most notably, my husband isn't afraid to bestow hugs and kisses or to tell him that he is loved.  In my opinion, you can't get more positive or more real than the everyday.

I could not have said it better myself.

Come on folks send me your tales of a dark knight (pun intended) in shining armor. You just may be featured on Talulazoeapple. Hey don't knock it. LOL

P.S. You can submit your stories via Talulazoeapple@yahoo.com

**UPDATE** Send more stories, would love to highlight ya'!

On 7/23/08, I posted an entry on the difficulty I had finding positive stories of black men via the Internet or other media. This entry was submitted by Kimberly Simmons:

My story is a simple one.  Everynight, with some exceptions, I can count on my husband (Randy Simmons) to be home and to take part in the bedtime rituals with our son (Rand Jr.).  In the morning, his name is the first out of my son's mouth.  Randy Jr. constantly looks for ways to emulate my husband (mimics his workout routines, his stance, and so many other things.  Most notably, my husband isn't afraid to bestow hugs and kisses or to tell him that he is loved.  In my opinion, you can't get more positive or more real than the everyday.

I could not have said it better myself.

Come on folks send me your tales of a dark knight (pun intended) in shining armor. You just may be featured on Talulazoeapple. Hey don't knock it. LOL

P.S. You can submit your stories via Talulazoeapple@yahoo.com

**UPDATE** Send more stories, would love to highlight ya'!

Your Stories - Positive Black Men

On 7/23/08, I posted an entry on the difficulty I had finding positive stories of black men via the Internet or other media. This entry was submitted by Kimberly Simmons:

My story is a simple one.  Everynight, with some exceptions, I can count on my husband (Randy Simmons) to be home and to take part in the bedtime rituals with our son (Rand Jr.).  In the morning, his name is the first out of my son's mouth.  Randy Jr. constantly looks for ways to emulate my husband (mimics his workout routines, his stance, and so many other things.  Most notably, my husband isn't afraid to bestow hugs and kisses or to tell him that he is loved.  In my opinion, you can't get more positive or more real than the everyday.

I could not have said it better myself.

Come on folks send me your tales of a dark knight (pun intended) in shining armor. You just may be featured on Talulazoeapple. Hey don't knock it. LOL

P.S. You can submit your stories via Talulazoeapple@yahoo.com