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Things I Love To Wear Out

When I find something good, I stick with it! Music, food, clothes - whatever.

I am the type of person who starts to listen to a CD and does not finish the CD for months because I have kept one song on repeat. lol

I had a pair of jeans that I had for like 4 years. They were so perfect in fit, style, comfort - everything. Finally, the seam popped. lol I had to, remorsefully, put them in the trash.Now I do not have a good pair of jeans.

I wear out:

1. A good dress.

2. A flattering hair style.

3. A good song.

4. A great book. I have read, "Their Eyes Were Watching God", soooo many times.

I am definitely a "stayed too long at the fair" kind of girl. I am trying to find temperence in this area of my personality. I am also trying to venture out and try new things.

In the area of dating, I do not want to find a nice guy and keep him on repeat until the interest wears off. No used to getting sold on the very first one. *Cue Smokey Robinson.* I am going to shop around.

 

I Bought A Wig and Named It Carmen

I am a natural girl. I AM a natural girl. I AM A NATURAL GIRL. . .but I have a confession to make. On Saturday night, I wore a wig out to an event. I am talking a big, bouncy curly Beyonce-esque wig.

I LOVED IT. lol

Granted it was a pretty benign event. Not a real opportunity to whip my hair back and forth but I did get a wobble, wobble in.

Before the big wig event, I took my wig on a trial run. I wore it to work on Friday. I got some pretty good feedback and boost of confidence.

 It is a little peculiar how changing one aspect of your appearance can affect the totality of your look. I swear that hair took fifteen pounds off.

My new hair is a keeper. The hair gave me a pass to be a newer me.  In return,  I named it Carmen.

 

I Really Cannot Stand!

I really cannot stand when I visit my favorite blogs and there has not been any updates in like FOREVER! Do you guys feel that way about me. lol  *hangs head and walks away*

I really need some exciting things to occur in my life that are blog worthy. Sure I could make a great list of things that did NOT happen to me. Like, I did not get abducted by aliens but where would that get us.

*Random*

Kelly Rowland covered Marie Claire UK.

*Back to regularly scheduled programming*

I am going home for Christmas. Which is good news cause this cold is giving me the winter blues. Hoping for good weather and safe travels.

I am still loving the new gig though.

Need to find a pretty dress for a jazz social this weekend. I want something sparkly.

That pretty much sums up my week. I know my life is soooooo exciting right now. lol Hey but I am grateful to be alive *smiles*

5 Moments You Should Keep Silent and Walk Away . . .Just Walk Away

Ever wonder when you should be that nice person to point out something or when you should mind your own business and walk away. Well, I have a guide, lol.

1.   The Gold Toofus - Sorry I was watching Martin reruns and that Gerome never gets old. I know someone with a big gold tooth right in the front of her mouth and every time she smiles, I hear *TING*. Like a little bell goes off in my head. It's too bad because she is really pretty. I know someone else with two gold caps on her incisors. They are not shiny and I hear no *TING* At times like these, I just walk away. SMH

2.  The Uda, Buda, and Cuda - The three sisters will tell on you. Ever know of someone who tells you that they have an alternative deodorant or hygience routine that they swear by and then the wind blows. Just walk away!

3.  The Boogie - I will tell a friend mid-convo if they have a visitor and I would expect the same treatment. Sometimes there is that awkward moment, when you don't see it until some time has passed and the conversation has gotten deep. Then you feel weird about bringing it up because you know that person is gonna be like, what took you so long. Too avoid such discomfort, just walk away.

4.  The Significant Other. . .of Another - Ever meet a friend's S.O. and the friend is so excited but the S.O. is a total jerk, weirdo or psycho felon? Anyone? Anyone besides me? A.W.K.W.A.R.D. Find safety first and then walk away!

 5. The Unqualified Advice Giver - These people love to interrupt quality conversations with what they THINK you should do. You ask them have they tried whatever advice that they are dishing out and off course *crickets* BUT they swear by it. After all, they saw it on Ricky Lake once. lol At times like these, I like to speak up but usually these types do not back down. If that ever turns out to be the case. Just walk away.

 

 What about you guys? At what times do you speak up and when do you just walk away?

 

Build-A-Man Just like Build-A-Bear but Cheaper

I was over at Very Smart Brothas and ran across a post entitled, "Building the Perfect Woman." I won't go into the ridiculousness that men consider "perfect" on a woman. Suffice it to say, if it were left up to men, women would be a conglomeration of double d's, a big butt and a smile.

The post did get me to thinking about the perfect man. This topic is right on time considering the fact that me and my friend spent yesterday discussing our "lists". The "LIST" consists of the qualities we want in our future husbands.

So making a list and checking it twice. To make it fun, I'll use celebrities. Here we go (No particular order):

1. Intelligence like President Barack Obama.

2. Smile like Laz Alonso.

3. Eyes like Omar Epps.

4. Heart like Dr. Daniel Hale Williams.

5. Character: A man after God's own heart

6. Body like *inside my own head* lol Too many to choose from.

7. Enterprising like Michael Lee Chin



8. And swagger like DENZEL!!!!!

Build your man in the comments.

The Big Reveal

So me and friend are planning a little web talk show. It will debut in a couple of weeks. Which means, of course, I will no longer be semi anonymous. Just in case you were wondering.

I mean, what can a visual aid do. I have already been very open about my life and experiences on Talulazoeapple. The anonymous thing just gave me a sense of freedom of expression.

So, my question, who is excited to see the real me? lol

Oh and the show. . .is HOT! We talk about everything and anything you want to know.

Will explain more in the coming weeks. What topics would you like to see discussed? Drop me a comment.

I Got A Job, Whoot, Whoot!

I am really excited about this new gig. I am pretty much helping out of work people find jobs.  Oh, the irony!

'Tis the season of new beginnings.

I am meeting all types of interesting people, at the new gig. I am convinced that God is the Great Networker. I am moving soon. Same community, smaller and cheaper place. Oh, I started my budget.

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I am driving home from work, my very first day, and my phone rings.

It's "The Kid" singing, "She works hard for the money." I totally needed that laugh. So he is like, I miss you, can I come over. He says he will bring dinner, yada, yada.

So mind you, he calls from the restuarant that is like two minutes from my house to see what I want. Then like 40 MINUTES later, I call and say, "Are you lost?"

He says, no. It turns out his "girlfriend" needed money and he had to go rush and make a deposit. Okay, that's fine and all but why wouldn't you call and say that. He thinks that I make a big deal out of things but his behavior just reinforces his immaturity to me. He's cool and all but I hate when people show disregard for my time.

Anyway, he comes over and we hangout but I was really tired and feeling a bit under the weather.

Back to my job, though. #Grateful

I feel like a lot of things are resettling in my life, as if I am being repositioned. I keep giving thanks regardless of what is happening around me. I know God will calm every stormy sea and boisterous wind.

That is what has been happening in my life. What's up with yours?

I am in training for the next couple of weeks.

On To The Next One - Career That Is

My last day at work is tomorrow. I am looking forward to the next page in my book of life.

I have a few prospects but faith is my concrete hope.

The people at work are planning two celebrations - a work one and an after work dinner.

We shall see what happens.

*Side-note* I have forgiven "The Kid". On the grand scale of friendship the incident was not a deal breaker but it does give me pause. I can also acknowledge my own flaw in the situation. I judge people's motives for their behavior based on past experiences instead of giving each new person a fair chance. So this is his fair chance. Besides, I drop people too easily in the past. I think this is a friend worth keeping.

*Extra Sidenote* The new girl at work says that I never pay her compliments. Que? Are we dating? lol

She said this as part of a conversation about black women working together and being jealous of one another. She claims she is so not like that. Me thinks thou does protest too much! lol

I hope I don't get emotional tomorrow. The hugs, kisses and goodbyes have already started.

Failing the Test and Learning A Lesson

I allow things to really aggravate me to the point of knocking me off task sometimes. This is a problem.

I was over at Full Complexity's blog and read her post about something really similar. We must be living parallel lives. God led us to each other's blog for encouragement.

I drove through traffic and in circles to make it to this important event downtown only to realize the event did not have parking. I would have to pay and I had no cash on me. I would have to drive at least 15 minutes out of the way to find a cash station. All of this happened after having a really tough/disappointing day at work.

All I needed to do was bite the bullet, say a prayer, and drive to the cash station and make my way back. I, however, became overwhelmed with all the things I had been going thru and thought this is just one more thing that has not worked out for me.

I started to cry. . .really. I thought, God, why do things like this happen to me, why am I disappointed so much?

 And then it came to me, like an epiphany - no Chrisette Michele - that it was only a test. The enemy tries to throw little roadblocks in our way to keep us off task. In the grand scheme of things, this was only a minor setback but I allowed myself to connect it to other minor setbacks to create a giant snowball of setbacks to cry over.

The event was so informative and I got to do something I always wanted to do.

I believe God is showing me through it all to just trust him. He knows my end from the beginning. The setbacks are just a test of my faith. Do I really believe the ending of the story leads back to HIM?

I do!

Good News From Here On Out

. . .until I need to vent again. lol

My mom is getting married. Yeah, mom. Once we had this conversation, in which I told her I want you to marry before I do so that I know you are okay. She says, no I want you to marry before I do so that I know you are okay.

Haha mom, I WIN!!! LOLOLOLOLOL

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Cute deliver guy just keeps coming around flirting as usual with no phone call. I avoided him a few days, just to not be so available I guess. Maybe he is just not that into me. . . MUST.MOVE.ON.

JUST KIDDING. LOLOLOL

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Why did "The Kid" look really cute in training today? Maybe because the new girl was sitting next to him. I have this thing where I don't really want a guy until I see that someone else is interested in him. Weird.

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I am in such a better mood than I was last week. Lets keep it going and laissez les bon temps rouler.