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What I Did Tonight?

Just got back from a networking event. It was quite interesting.

There was a Q&A section in which I asked a question of the group of panelists. My question: What entry point should a grad student shoot for within a company when  you have management experience but you are still in school?

The panelists answered with useful insight. Then an audience member jumped in and basically attacked me. SERIOUSLY!

I am a cool, Level-headed person and nothing really shakes me. I remained calmed as she jumped in saying something like, "Well, what is your background? Out of all the things you said I know nothing about who you are or what you have done. I mean I could not place you if I were hiring. Don't put everything on someone else to figure you out. You have to carry the load." Mind you she was loud with a MAJOR attitude.

So I say, "Excuse me, I do not follow."

She rambles on some more before the moderator takes the conversation back.

Normally, I would question myself, am I being to sensitive? But after the meeting,  she comes up to me and said, "I hope I did not offend you, I just recently had the same conversation with my neice."yada, yada, yada. 

A. I am not your neice and

B. Calm you crazy self down. This is a professional event.

Like five different people came up to me and said they could not believe she attacked me like that. One author just said a few words of encouragement to me, he was really nice. 

Strange. I am used to negative reactions from certain women. It's just how it is.

Besides the drama, I was looking pretty cute. I finally mastered my makeup. I mean to the point it almost looked professionally done. I would put up a picture but I have to be conscious of internet stalkers. I have two dresses that are my ace in the hole. No matter if I gain or lose weight they always flatter. I wore the dressier one tonight.

My shoes are another story. I used to wear heels all the time but the extra weight has made it a bit uncomfortable to walk long in them. Some people have jeans they wanna get into. I have shoes.

 

Nine West Sandals (Worn once)

 

Nine West Pumps (Worn once)

 

Hush Puppies (Need to Retire) but they have cushion and rubber bottoms. LOL

I am going to an outdoors concert tomorrow. I'll let you guys know how it goes.

Jon and Kate Plus 8 - My Psychic Vision

Call me now!!! I totally saw this one coming.

I finally caught the train wreck that is Jon and Kate Plus 8 a few weeks ago. From my brief moments peering into their life I could see - Jon is not a happy man.

His wife is a 'ball-buster'. She totally emasculates him. Maybe she think this is cute because he rarely jumps back. However, passive men always get even, passive-aggressive even.

Jon & Kate Plus 8 dad Jon Gosselin says the paparazzi photos of him leaving a bar with an unidentified woman "showed poor judgment." The father of eight was photographed, sans wedding ring, leaving Legends Lounge near his Pennsylvania home with a woman around 2 a.m. on April 18, Us Weekly reports. According to the report, he was overheard calling the woman "babe" and urged her to get into his car when cameras started flashing. SOURCE

Not that I was rooting for this to happen. It is sad when these alleged things happen. My question is can a woman bring this type of behavior on herself? Is this Jon way of getting even because she won't allow him to be the man of the house? I am curious as to your opinions.

Can You Name These Lovely Women?

#1

 

#2

 

#3

 

Answer after the jump. . .

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Negative Thought Fast - Day 4

I did pretty good today and made quite a discovery. Negative thoughts take up a lot of mental space and energy. Without them I had the clarity of thought to create a schedule and stick to it. I also was mentally clear enough to edit my novel a bit.

Here I though I had some type of writer's block. I just had negative thought blockage.

How are you doing on your Negative Thought Fast?

My People We Must Do Better

This is the biggest display of foolishness I have seen in a while. We have a Black First Family and the media does not hesitate to provide ample displays of stupidity within the black community. I can't blame the media if we keep providing ammunition.

 

**I removed the second video. The guy who posted it is an obvious racist and I refuse to give him any more clicks.**

If there is a camera outside of a Chicken joint, BLACK PEOPLE DON"T STOP! Crying about the lack of chicken is NEVER a good look. NEVER.

"I'm more disapointed than angry. We've been looking forward to this day."

"No chicken?!?! ....Or they just outta chicken?"

I would laugh if I weren't crying a little inside.

Live Without Regrets

God is amazing in how he reveals things to you.

There were certain situations in my life when I thought, man, if I had only turned left instead of right then everything would be different.

A few weeks ago, I wrote a post about making the wrong decision. Low and behold, I get contacted by said person only to find out that my memory was foggy. Sometimes we forget the negatives in a relationship through the foggy haze of nostalgia. This person though still cool was also still very shallow among other things.

Then I remembered reading something somwhere that for everything we give up, we gain something in return, so you can never actually lose and there is no need for regret. For example, if you lose a job, you are now free to pursue other careers, start that business you have always wanted to, write a book, or start exercising.

I know what I gained and I am living it now. Life without baggage.

This Negative Thought Fast has me waxing all poetic and stuff. lol

A Negative Thought Fast

How about a diet for your mind?

I caught Joel Olsteen on TV and he mentioned an interesting concept, a fast to cleanse your mind.

Much like a fast to cleanse the body of toxins, the Negative Though Fast (I am paraphrasing) is to cleanse your mind of the negative thoughts that have been fed to you and that you feed yourself.

You know like; I'm not _____ enough, I am too _____, I hate ____ about myself, I will never have/accomplish _____.

These thoughts poison our self-esteem and impedes our development. So essentially every time you think one of these thoughts, stop and reaffirm one of God's promises. Like, I am the head and not the tail. I am blessed wherever I go. I am a child of God. (I am paraphrasing).

When you do cut off that negative thought, you have stuck to your diet. 

That's some food for thought. **Corny pun intended.**

I think I am going to try this diet. I need to lose a few negative pounds around the midsection.

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After the Party

I am old child. I cannot hang with the big, dogs. I left at little after 1pm.

But I had fun and that was the point of it all.

Invited to another gig on May 1st.

Two parties in one week. What's a girl to do?